They are not like aches or wounds; they are more like splits
in the skin that won’t heal because there’s not enough material.
– F. Scott Fitzgerald
The Holiday Season is usually particularly challenging for families in crisis. How should we divide parenting time during children’s vacations? Is it better for kids to spend Christmas Eve with Mom and Christmas Day with Dad, so that they can see both parents and extended families? Or, is it better for everyone’s peace of mind to alternate December holiday time on a yearly basis, so that the children are staying in one location and are not constantly being shuttled around? What have we done in prior years with our extended families? How can we, as parents, lead separate lives, while minimizing the damaging impact of a fractured holiday time on our children?
During the children’s winter holidays most family lawyers and mediators receive barrages of calls from extremely stressed parents, who finally heave the sigh of relief after the arrival of the New Year and the children’s return to their school routine.