{"id":117,"date":"2011-11-16T20:51:00","date_gmt":"2011-11-16T20:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodlawfirm.com\/attorney\/?p=117"},"modified":"2016-09-12T22:30:10","modified_gmt":"2016-09-12T22:30:10","slug":"a-good-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodlawfirm.com\/attorney\/a-good-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"A Good Divorce?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\n\u201cWhat do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?\u201d<\/strong><\/span> \u2013 George Eliot<\/span><\/div>\n
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\"A<\/a>Some people think that having a \u201cgood divorce\u201d is an oxymoron. In her October 28th NY Times article entitled \u201cThe Good Divorce\u201d, Susan Gregory Thomas admits that \u201c. . . there is precious little upside to divorce. \u201c She goes on to talk about how she and her husband were able to focus on their children rather than focusing on their pain, hostility and feelings of betrayal as they were going through the process.<\/div>\n

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According to statistical studies, people are marrying a little later in life, and tend to live together for a certain period of time before they decide to officially tie the knot. Couples who live together before they marry are often able to successfully overcome the obstacles inherent in the initial period of cohabitation between two strangers. If they become friends, their marriage generally strengthens. Sometimes, however, even these marriages don\u2019t work out, but when they fail, they fail \u201cdifferently\u201d. Couples that have been good friends during their marriage tend to approach their separation and divorce very differently than those who married in the midst of their passion, and had a heated marriage followed by a very heated divorce.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Susan Thomas says that based on Generation X research (people born between 1965 and 1980) conducted by Betsy Stevenson, an assistant professor at the Wharton School of Business, nearly 60% lived with their future spouses before marrying. Of that group, about 80% have made it past 10 years of marriage which is a very positive statistic.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Of those marriages that did not work out, the couple\u2019s approaches to a divorce differ greatly. Among them, divorce mediation and collaborative divorce are on the rise, as parents want to spare their children the horrors of the types of divorces that they remember in movies like Kramer vs. Kramer<\/em> or that they recall from their childhood. These couples read the studies; they understand the effect of divorce on children:<\/span><\/div>\n
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